When two people struggle in a relationship, the conflict on the surface is rarely the whole story. From a psychodynamic perspective, each partner carries into the relationship a history of earlier attachments, unspoken needs, and sensitivities formed long before they ever met. These often collide in ways neither person fully understands, so that a single argument about chores or money can quietly carry the weight of much older wounds. In our work together, I help both of you slow down and recognize what is really being communicated beneath the friction, so that you can begin to respond to each other rather than to ghosts from the past. The relationship itself becomes something we can observe and care for together.

Existentialist thinking adds another dimension: a couple is the meeting of two separate people, each with their own freedom, their own perspective, and their own way of facing life's uncertainties. Real intimacy asks us to encounter our partner as they genuinely are, not as we wish or fear them to be. Much of the distance couples feel comes from avoiding the honest, sometimes uncomfortable conversations that this kind of encounter requires. I work to create a space where both of you can speak and be heard fully, where difference can be tolerated rather than feared, and where you can rebuild trust by choosing, deliberately and openly, what you want to create together.